Nothing is Permanent, Especially the Way Things Are

A big brain-shift for me was the realization that humans have come up with the rules of everything, whether purposefully or inadvertently, and thus we have the power to change them at any time. Yet, we’ll still convince ourselves that our created rules and habits are the only ways to act, speak, think or be. Being inspired by another human is always when that person has broken the norm with an invention, innovation, or a new way of thinking. They believed that there was more to life and existence than what everyone already thought they knew, and thus in that world of possibility and “not knowing,” they found out something we’d all been not looking at, yet was already there. More possibility!

Everyone is capable of this. How many times a day do you hear another person or yourself say the phrase, “I can’t” when it comes to changing a belief, a job, a relationship, a habit? It’s the most disempowering thing I hear and I hear it all the time. “I can’t” needs to be reserved to physically impossible things only! Like, “Sorry, I can’t give birth to an actual dragon” or, “No, thanks, I can’t sit through another Ben Affleck movie.” The key for me to dislodge from an old habit or way of thinking boils down the belief in my personal will power. That’s another way to say that the key to breaking a habit is the belief in my ability to choose freely.

When I say, “I can’t,” I’m giving my power away. It’s simply easier to give power away. Like, would you rather carry all your boxes to the truck or bribe some friends with pizza and beer? Unlike that analogy, giving away power, while easier at first, eventually leads to a lack of ease. What I’m trying to say here is always get other people to move your apartment for you and otherwise never give away your power.

Giving away power eventually becomes a lack of ease because with a lack of personal power and choice comes the feeling, sensations, and stark “reality” of being an effect or even a victim. That way of thinking and being costs us our happiness and freedom in a very real sense. Then, we get stuck in truly believing that things just are the way they are, unable to see that every single second of the day, we can choose something else. Start something new. Give something up. Change our minds.

It’s one thing to preach this esoterically and another to tell you how. Here’s how I work on this: physical exercise. Seriously. Moving, stretching, squeezing, and sweating physically unlocks mental or emotional stuckness as well. We all know that movement is required to keep things fresh–think about a stagnant pond vs a fast flowing stream. While physical exercise helps, you can also make a giant transformational shift in a moment of thinking, aka have an epiphany. (Have one! Now!) Really, anything is possible. Will you try on believing it to create the possibility for possibility?